Why did your friends abandoned you?

All of us at one point in our life  have felt part of a group and then felt that the group we were apart of has left us behind. Sometimes we are still part of the group, but the connection is gone. You get the feeling like you are still apart of it because they are just being nice or you don't cut the ties yourself. The group chats , gatherings or calls seem to be better and longer when you are not around. Or you notice they are hanging out more with  out you. Most of the times when its a big group and you feel this way, odds are you are not the only one cut off. Sometimes that person that makes you feel part of the group is also being cut off or is soon to be cut off.

Now, you might be wondering; why does this happen?, why you?, did you do something wrong?, why I'm one of the original members?, did they already replace me?.

The answers to those questions vary. Sadly these cut off happen often in new friend groups. Since when you join a new friend group is recommended to be because you have something in common with them. However, now in days we join friend groups because of exposure. With that I mean that we become close and start to think of them as friends because we happen to be taking classes with them all the time, work in the same place, train together, basically anything that means you are constantly seeing each other and exchanging words. Having good  short conversations and glances, until well you practically join them in their group. Sometimes you only know the basics of them, nothing very dip and probably you in the group seem to be a mismatch but at the time it doesn't matter. Because you enter the Honeymoon Face of the friendship, when basically everything is unicorns and rainbows (a.k.a. perfect). Until vacation starts or you are not physically near the group. At the point is when you start feeling a little left out or you basically do not care. This is because the Reciprocal Liking and Honeymoon effect ends.

To explain it in simple terms reciprocal liking is when you start liking or having nice thoughts of someone after you find out they like you or have a positive image or thought of you. This is when basically exposure takes over of you seeing them and passing time with them makes everybody think they are really close. While the Honeymoon Face is basically like I mentioned above everything is perfect, for this case is when you always are near or with the group.  When this Honeymoon Face ends is when you start noticing like you do not seem like a member of the group, you questioned if they have always been like that in references with their actions, you basically start to feel like an outsider that is infiltrated the group. You don't leave the group in hopes that everything normalizes when you all hang out like old times, sometimes is because you don't realize it until is too late or simply you really do not care because when you hang out sure sometimes you might feel out of place but you do end up having fun with them and if they want to cut you off it doesn't affect you that much because they are not the only friends you have.

When it comes to the group is very few the times that they will come out and cut you off completely directly by saying it to you. Most of the times they pick or is a member of the group to subtly start to cut you off, until you do decide to end things because you feel really out of place. They will also have replacement for you will they cut you off, and you notice it. At the time you bluff it off but at the end they end up with your place.

That is the most common reason your knew friend group is cutting you off. Other common reasons are because they only added you because you were dating one of the members or one of the members wanted to date you. And you were social enough to be accepted or they added you to help their friend get in your pants. But when you start having problems with the person you are dating or break up with them, that also goes for the group to because *News Flash* those are his/her friends originally and they will stick by him/her. Or you simply did not budge and dated the member of the group or you did date them but things didn't work out with you guys, well again say goodbye to those friends too.  Although, if they just wanted to help their friend date you and then cut you off, I really don't count them as friends.

The last reason I will cover, basically can be applied to any cut off situation, which is people just grow apart. People are constantly evolving in their thoughts, goals, preferences and so much more. This reason I like to apply it to cut off's that might happen in friend groups that have been together for years but they separate.

At last in our current society they are many other reasons you might be starting to get cut off the friend groups you are apart of. Sometime you have to evaluate if you were the one that cut them off for a relationship, new friends or people that ended up leaving as fast as they came.  However; I truly believe that the ones I covered in this post are the most frequent reasons in our current society.

It dose not matter if you lose friends or not because of the end of the day, you will always meet people, some might stay short periods, long or even for ever. Think of it as an elevator at first it might be crowded, but while you keep moving and stopping in certain points in time some might leave and others will arrive, until you end the trip and get off the elevator alone. I'm not saying to not make friends because eventually they might leave, I'm saying that we have to be prepared and okay when those alone times come and use it in a positive way and no to feel down because we are alone.

7 New Year's Resolutions for 2017

We are all ready in the third day of 2017 and if you still don't have a clue of what your New Year's Resolutions could be, then I got you cover with 7 New Year's Resolutions to start this 2017. After all it's to 2017 already.

1. Eat healthier
    This does not mean you have to starve yourself or that you can't eat all the foods you like it means that you will try to eat healthier. Whether is once a month or just changing one of your snack to a healthier one.
I recommend acai bowls there really tasty. 





2.Be more active
   For example maybe once a month go on a walk or hike. Just try to be more active instead of staying in your room or not doing anything.






3.Travel more
   Try to go to new places, it does not have to be an expensive trip. It could be to a new store that opened up recently or a food place that you been anxious to go. The point of this resolution is to at least go to a new place that you have never been to or to a place that you have not been to in a while.

4. 12 New Things
   This resolution basicly means try to learn something new or try something that you have never used it could be a product, app, food, a book or anything. It could be maybe one new thing per month just try something new, maybe you will find a new hobby you never know.






5. Meet new people
    Try to be more social, new people are a good way to learn new things or to try new things. You could find a new best friend of maybe the person who will be your next relationship.



6.  Give Back
     Try to do something positive. You don't have to give a random stranger a hundred dollars to some stranger like some youtubers do. When you give back it could be something like a smile, or maybe you're in line at the food truck and somebody needs a dollar to buy food or something. The point is to try and give back.



7. Be yourself
    A lot of people try to change who they are because it's a New Year and stuff like that but do not do it. You should be proud of who you are and a New Year should not define you or make you think that you need to change.

Breakfast To Go Ideas

Here are some breakfast to go ideas with their recipes. In those days your in a hurry grab your Breakfast to go that you make them the day or night before.

The first idea of breakfast to go is Ceral Bars:

Ingredients:

-Cheerios or your favorite cereal
-Marshmallows
-Nonstick spray (SPAM)
-Sprinkles, Chocolate or anything you want to add.
-Bowl




Instructions:

1. Get your bowl and spray with your non stick spray (SPAM).
2. After that, get your cereal and put it in the bowl as well as the marshmallows and chocolate.
3. Then put the bowl with its ingredients in the microwave for 30 seconds or until the marshmallows and chocolate melts.
4. Then take the bowl out of the microwave and mix the ingredients and mold them to the shape you want and let it harden.
5. Enjoy!

The second idea is Yogurt Parfait

Ingredients:

-Your favorite yogurt

-Your favorite fruits

-Granola

-Almonds (Optional)

-Container or Cup

      Instructions:

1. Take the yogurt and put a layer of it in your cup or container.
2. Then add the granola, fruits and almonds.
3. Repeat steps one and two until your happy with you're product.
4. Put your parfait in the fridge until it's time to eat.
5. Enjoy!

On the Go Oat's

Ingredients:

1. Cinnamon and raisins, if desired for garnish.
2. Container (5.3) oz Yoplait Greek 100 apple pie yogurt.
3.  2 Tablespoons uncooked gluten-free old-fashioned or quick-cooking oats.
4. 2 Tablespoons coarsely crushed Honey Nutt Cheerios cereal.
5.  
   1/4 Cup diced apple.

                                             

Instructions:

1. In container with tight-fitting cover, mix yogurt, uncooked oats and cereal. Stir in apple. Cover; refrigerate at least 8 hours but no longer than 3 days before eating. Garnish as desired. 
2. Enjoy!

Acrostic-Unfaithful

Untruthful life you have giving me.

Never in my life I have seen a

Faithless man like yourself

A person that fakes loyalty

Inconstant life occurrences

Treacherous and manipulative.

However I don't lose,

Faith that you will change,

Unabashed of my feeling.

Loyal of my love.

Poem by Cinthia Lopez

List Poem- The life we live

List Poem- The life we live

I have not lived long enough,

To see how our lives merge into one.

The life we live

Is a happy one,

No problems,

Nor flaws,

Especially no insecurities.

Justice helps the ones who deserve it,

The only conflict that exist,

Is the one where you and I have not met,

Sadly I have committed a sin,

Since this life is a lie where you don't exist.

School transformation enables students to become our leaders:

What makes a leader different from a boss? The answer is very simple great leaders don’t set out to be a leader. They set out to make a difference. It's never about the role it's always about the goal. Like John Maxwell once said ‘‘Leaders become great, not because of their power, but because of their ability to empower others.

School systems have gone through many changes through the years especially the public school systems of Puerto Rico. An example of all these transformations are students organizations which are more frequently known as students clubs. If we enter the official site of the department of education we will find that in our public schools there are at least fourteen official clubs from the department. These clubs are perfect examples of what most students are interested in. Since students are part of these clubs willingly. This gives feed back to the schools, because they will see in what areas they have to evolve or transform to get students to transform themselves into leaders.

Now that we know how to get our students attention and keep the love of learning increasing. We need to know how we can transform them into leaders. A leader is a person who takes charge and leads even the weakest member. The schools during this transformation must become leaders to create leaders. And I quote Ken Blanchard who said ‘‘ The key to a successful leader today is influence, not authority’’.

For most students schools are a place where they lose their authority,when the reality is that schools can be very influential place. How a teacher acts and treats his students could influence them to study more, and this has been proven. You may say what teacher do to create leaders?

Let me say they can do a lot. A teacher can be really influential  a student. Since the school is the place where students come to learn, but we don't  learn from the school we learn from the teacher. A teacher is a great example for students to become leaders. ‘‘ Being a leader is not about you. It’s about the people that are on your team and how you can help them be successful’’. This is an actual statement for teachers since when teachers teach, they forget about themselves they worry about if the students are learning or not and tries to make the class in a way where everybody can learn and understand at the sametime to be successful.

In the public schools there are lot of students leaders and some are in process of becoming leaders. Because when us as students decide to make a stand whether it is to help a fellow student or simply to try and make a difference in our schools and community this is when we become students leader. Like Walt Disney once said ‘‘ Leadership means that a group, large or small, is willing to entrust authority to a person who has shown judgement, wisdom, personal appeal and proven competence’’. This is completely true of our current students leaders, they have a vision to make things better, innovation, motivation and inspiration to make the difference in our schools in which all leaders are created.

Summary of Society Killed Beauty within the Teenager

Makeup advertisements make teenage girls believe that with covering their flaws in makeup they will be beautiful. And this has gotten to the point that girls as young as seven years are using make-up regularly in an attempt to match up to the female perfection shown on television, in teen magazines and by their favorite artist.

The concept of photoshop is taken into account, it is important to note that at least 28% of advertisements are retouched with a disclaimer, and an estimated 44% are retouched without a disclaimer. David Spellman, a clinical psychologist said young teenagers  have developed distorted ideas around appearance through the bombardment of digitalized images in the media. 45% of teenage girls that the photos they see in magazines motivate them to loose weight.

Beauty Pageants have increased the believe that you need to wear large amounts of makeup, have to wear designer clothes, have to have an exact weight, that sometimes we need surgery to get perfection, that we need to have perfect teeth, we have to increased are vanity and puts an age on beauty.  But that an it the worse of all sadly.

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In my opinion, society will always have high standards for beauty and from my perspective, the opinions of others will always be relevant when perceiving our own self. I believe if would we stop exhaustively comparing are selves to other women such as the ideals in the media, we will never be satisfied with are own appearance and this results in increased conformity. And this sadly are teenagers are paying the consequences trying to appear something their not and in the worse cases they become anorexic and bulimic.  There is no better you than the true you.